It started out as a crush. One of those stupid crushes you tell your friends at a sleepover. And that's exactly how it started.
Friday. Day of the dance. One of those crazy days where everyone acts really stupid at the dance and then sleeps over at a friend's to get over. I'm not sure if it was the first, or second dance because my memory blurs many of the CTY memories together, only picking what CTY felt like and all the good times. I was dressed in my blue capey cloth thingy or my black dress. Was it the other one? Anyways, I think it was the one where the power went out and we were flocked together like a herd of cows outside of that big black room where the dances were held. Even with the RA's trying to handle this one by shouting commands and such, and the crazy power outage, and
the amateurishly planned out dance where everyone was still awkwardly unused to the company of their fellow nerds, I still had a decently good time.
When the dance was over I was gonna sleep over at Angie's and M.E.'s with Rae, so we all made the effort, tired from the dance, to pull my matress over from my room and into Angie's. After getting the beds ready we, basically, talked about everything we could think of- and laughed about it. And all those other sleepover things that people do at sleepovers: acting crazy, living, and of course staying up late.
At 1 or 2 am, I was feeling crazy enough for anything. Angie, Rae, and I were singing 1000 miles from Angie's iPod; much to M.E.'s dismay, who was right next to us trying to sleep to our off-key lullaby of Vanessa Carlton's hit song. Soon, as every sleepover progresses, we talked about crushes and whatever that was going on in our so called love lives (or non-existent ones).
We talked about former crushes and romances with (maybe imaginary) boyfriends and who we liked at CTY.
Angie and Rae collapsed in a fit of giggles at the ridiculous reality of my statement. After giggling for about 5 minutes, Angie must've said something like "Are you serious?" and "Sure he's fun to hang out with but he wouldn't make a good boyfriend." Why I said 'Raymond', I didn't understand. Was it because there were only about 5 guys us girls in the Crafting the Essay class had contact with? Or was it because I actually kind of liked him? He was my supposed crush, something stupid you say at a sleepover when you don't have anything else to say.
Over the next few days, my imaginary crush happened to grow into one that was real- or seemed real. Every day in class was like some sort of experimental test to see if he liked me back. Yeah, it was dumb. I don't know what I was thinking back then. It sure didn't feel like that fuzzy feeling all the movies talk about. And it probably wasn't supposed to be.
Eventually it progressed to a sort of imaginary relationship. It was there but unfocused and intangible; like the mist in a hazy morning. I didn't know if he liked me, and I don't know why I danced with him at the last dance. Was it just the bet? Was it that I wanted to do something? After finally taking action and trying to do something, I realized that was what was wrong. I tried to take the intangible into reality. You can't create something out of nothing, and since nothing was there, there was nothing to be made.
The few days after the dance were some of the crappy-est days of my CTY experience. Raymond was obviously trying to distance himself from me. He made no attempt to talk to me and only rarely met my eye-contact. It seemed like he was avoiding me and I was confused. I thought after you had danced with someone it would be all flowers and kisses but all I got was crap in return. Instead of hanging out with me and everyone else as usual, Raymond started hanging out with Shensei and her friends, which only made me jealous, annoyed and frustrated.
At Fun-in-the-Sun, the Talent Show, and the rest of CTY Raymond totally ignored me and hung out with Shensei all the time. Most of the time, when he talked to me it only made me feel worse and jealous when I saw him hanging out with Shensei and her friends. The result was: me sulking in my dorm almost all the free time we had, and me being antisocial for the rest of CTY. I didn't want to talk to anyone that reminded me of Raymond. I didn't want to think.
Our last day together was spent still immaturely avoiding each other and playing that pointless charade where everything was O.K. in our imaginary world. When he wrote his number in my phone he wrote one of those lame <3 signs next to his contact name. We said our goodbyes and that was the end.
I'll say it right now, Raymond was a jackass and probably much worse. If some girl said they liked you, would you just annoy them and stop talking to them just because they tried to get close to you?
Maybe he was too immature to understand what he had. A girl that liked him, an opportunity he didn't take. After what he posted on the blog, it's pretty clear anyone that gets close to Raymond gets met with an emotional wall. It's not like he didn't have a chance- it was a chance he didn't grab and took for granted. Our relationship was based off stupid bets, imaginary crushes, and whispered gossip in the classroom. Looking back, I wonder if I even liked him, or if it was just an excuse, something to preoccupy myself at CTY.
Now after CTY, I've made a lasting friend in Trevor and we may become boyfriend and girlfriend. I certainly feel the spark, that feeling that makes you smile for the whole day, when I talk to Trevor; and the feeling that was absent in my relationship with Raymond.
I've learned that imaginary crushes are just that- IMAGINARY. If you try to take an unfocused crush into reality it'll just flop on your face, and make you feel like crap. Getting involved with the wrong guy can ruin your whole life. And in my case, Raymond was the wrong guy to get involved in.
Somehow the hazy border between a real relationship and a fake one is clearer to me now after my relationship with Raymond. I'm just grateful this happed to me at CTY and not somewhere else where I wouldn't we able to stop that virtual hell after a few days. And I'm also glad I didn't commit to that fake relationship and do something stupid like kissing him or something even stupider. I recently changed his contact on my phone to plain Raymond without the <3.
Before I was ashamed to post this- now I'm not. Raymond may not even read this, but who cares? As long as someone learns from my mistakes, that's all that matters.